Friday, November 20, 2015

Weekend, Holidays and Such...

         While all the hustle and bustle of the upcoming holidays tend to make many people excited and happy, it can also make some anxious and tense. The reasons vary greatly from person to person, but we do know that tension and anxiety can trigger OCD symptoms.
       So, begin now, over the weekend, to take measures to address whatever it is about the upcoming holidays that might bring on negative emotions. And then see if there is a way to remedy that.
        Sometimes we have to do things differently than we've been doing in the past for holidays. Maybe not see the same people (if they cause us tension) or go to the same places. For some, a loss of a person close to us can make us dread the festivities without them. Or a divorce or break-up in a relationship. Some counseling can be a big help in coping during this time of year. We might have to spend the holidays alone if family is far away or we have none.
    Others choose to help others during the holidays by volunteering in soup kitchens or at a local church with fairs and decorating - or behind-the-scenes as needed.
     Doing things quietly on our own to gain moments of holiday joy can be very therapeutic. Preparing a Thanksgiving meal for one with all the trimmings is perfectly fine. We are giving thanks and enjoying what we are able to partake of. No reason to miss out on the special fare of the season due to being solo. After the meal some choose to go out for dessert to a cafe or a coffee house. Lots of folks sit alone at such places for a special seasonal treat.

       Going to see the store windows all decorated. Strolling through the festive department stores and/or
malls.
Sipping a warm latte by the fireplace or under a soft blanket and listening to special songs of the season. Spending time in church absorbing the quiet and pondering the spiritual aspect of the celebrations.
 
Watching a favorite holiday movie with popcorn and eggnog. And it's fun to decorate even just for yourself and enjoy the atmosphere.

Walking through the lit-up neighborhood or park at night enjoying the Christmas lights.
     These are things that can enrich our moods and our souls. Loneliness, a big issue during this time of year, need not rob anyone of all their joy.
       As we begin the weekend, let us be mindful of what we can do to keep calm, bring in some joy, and not feed the OCD symptoms with stress and anxiety.  And if the symptoms are already overactive right now, talk back to each symptom as if they are all bullies full of lies, trying to make you afraid and miserable.
        And don't forget...we can be joy-givers and helpers to others who are having a hard time during holiday season. It's a good feeling for the giver and receiver. Invite a lonely person over for coffee. 
Smile at someone who looks sad. Call a friend who you know is going through a difficult time.

        Hopefully reading this will bring some enthusiasm into the upcoming holidays, whether alone, going through a personal struggle, or due to OCD. Enjoy the weekend and have a Happy Thanksgiving! .
       

Thursday, November 19, 2015

Is it a Real Fear or Not?

    
     Aconfusing aspect of OCD is the veracity of the fear. The question being: "but isn't this is a very real danger that I fear? It's not an OCD issue."
     Top OCD specialists tell us that at least ninety percent of our fears are based on very real issues. It's not the particular issue that points to OCD but it's our reaction to the particular issue. There is always a risk that not washing our hands can allow for some germs. This is a fact. We wash our hands when we can get to it and forget about it. The OCD bully tells us that once is not enough, that it may be too late because the germs have already settled in. Wash again and again and again. That is entering OCD territory.
    When fear becomes a constant source of anxiety and the main focus of our thoughts, no matter how legitimate it is, we can recognize the OCD bully at work.
                             -In part taken from the book: Confronting The Bully of OCD

Monday, November 16, 2015

Now is the time...

"Now is a good time to take inventory of the things you have begun doing to help yourself fight back the Bully of OCD and what things you still need to do." 
     From the book: Confronting The Bully of OCD
Note: If you haven't had the stamina or time to begin some kind of 'fight back' approach, now is a good a time as any. Begin the week by making a commitment to seeking help to diminish OCD symptoms. Look over the posts on this blog for tips and encouragement.

Tuesday, November 10, 2015

Soothe Yourself Reminder-


It's still early in the week and sometimes if OCD symptoms are persistent, we are tired and weary as if we put in a whole week already.
Remember to soothe yourself, despite OCD activity in your brain.(It's just a bully so treat it like one.)
Find time to soak in a warm bath, or

Relax with a favorite soothing song, or
Take a walk in a pleasant environment...along the sea shore, a lake, the local park...
Make time to pray and/or meditate.
Do some exercise, mild or vigorous. Whatever works for you.
Have lunch or dinner with a friend to break up the monotony and socialize a bit.
But remember to eat well. No sugar or caffeine. No processed foods.

DON'T LET OCD wear you down to the point of ignoring care for yourself.  A little pampering goes a long way to renew your spirit and enthusiasm to live fully, despite having OCD.
Tell the OCD bully that you come first and no fearful thoughts or compulsions will stand in your way.

Thursday, November 5, 2015

Confronting the Bully of OCD Book on Sale-

If you'd like a slightly damaged copy of Confronting The Bully of OCD, By Linda Maran,
please contact me and it's yours for $3.00 plus postage of around the same price.
Also look on eBay for the book at half price plus postage. Originally $14.99. Great if you cannot find a specialized therapist. Technique by a leading OCD NYC specialist.
                       (Photo by author)

Wednesday, November 4, 2015

Keep Getting Up...

If you keep getting back up after setbacks, you'll tire out the 'OCD bully."