Monday, June 29, 2015

Reminder: Can't Afford Therapy?

Confronting the Bully of OCD is the perfect book if therapy is not affordable or attainable.
Written by the client of  Dr. Steven Brodsky, a well known OCD specialist in NYC, and using the techniques taught to the author by him. The author has OCD and therefore knows firsthand the struggles entailed.
Dr. Brodsky features the book on his own website.
The book had been reduced in price and available through

Gaga, Sara Bareillis, Oprah...Had Anxiety Challenges Too.

   Let us not belittle ourselves for having OCD, panic attacks, anxiety, fears, depression or other disorders...we are not alone and we can move on despite the challenges they present.
    There are countless gifted performers, writers, artists, crafts people, politicians, and inventors, who have/ or have had, struggles with OCD and/or anxiety and other issues all their lives. But they didn't let it stop them from using the gifts and talents they had to benefit the world and others.
     It doesn't matter if we feel 'different' from the majority (in any way at all.) In fact, it's refreshing to be different from the rest. To walk to the beat of your own drum, or in a sense, to the beat you are being called to.
     OCD is no different from other kinds of challenges, meaning, it can bring us down at times and we have to get back up.
      Here are some accomplished people who have had to overcome obstacles and ongoing feelings about it...
Lady Gaga - Singer/performer, admitted to kicking a past eating disorder that she says plagued her. In being open about her depression and eating disorder struggles, the pop star places herself among the 1 in approximately 10 Americans who also struggle with depression. She's also been known to suffer from stage fright.
Sara Bareillis - singer/songwriter, overcame being bullied in school and went out to become a very successful singer, songwriter. She says: “I grew up a fat girl,” Sara recalled. “I had to change schools at one point because the kids were so mean to me. I still often feel I just don’t want anyone to notice anything about me.”
Oprah Winfrey:  While Oprah still battles anxiety today; it's something that has affected her throughout her entire life. She revealed that when she was a child she was sexually abused. The abuse she suffered happened for several years, which really took a toll on her mental and physical health. This experience changed the way she looked at her life and she was never the same after it. She used her fears and anxieties to push herself to where she is today.
hile Oprah still battles anxiety today; it's something that has affected her throughout her entire life. She recently revealed that when she was a child she was sexually abused. The abuse she suffered happened for several years, which really took a toll on her mental and physical health. This experience changed the way she looked at her life and she was never the same after it. - See more at:
While Oprah still battles anxiety today; it's something that has affected her throughout her entire life. She recently revealed that when she was a child she was sexually abused. The abuse she suffered happened for several years, which really took a toll on her mental and physical health. This experience changed the way she looked at her life and she was never the same after it. - See more at:

All the following people had obstacles and/or various disorders such as OCD, anxiety and/or depression... 
Abrahan Lincoln (President of theUSA)
Adele (musician)
Al Kasha (songwriter)
Alanis Morisette (singer)
Alfred Lord Tennyson (poet)
Amanda Bynes (actress)
Amanda Seyfried (actress)
Ann Wilson (singer)
Anne Tyler (author)
Anthony Hopkins (actor)
Ashley Judd (musician)
Aretha Franklin (singer)
Barbara Bush (former First Lady - U.S.)
Barbara Gordon (filmmaker)
Barbra Streisand (singer)
Beverly Johnson (supermodel)
Bonnie Raitt (musician)
Brooke Shields (actress)
Burt Reynolds (actor)
Carly Simon (singer)
Charles Schultz (cartoonist)
Charlize Theron (actress)
Charlotte Bronte (author)
Catherine Zeta-Jones (actress)
Cher (singer, actress)
Christina Ricci (actress)
Chloƫ Sevigny (actress)
Courtney Love (singer - actress)
Dave Stewart of the (singer – Eurythmics)
David Beckham (soccer star)
David Bowie (singer)
Dean Cain (actor)
Deanna Carter (singer)
Dick Clark (television personality)
Donny Osmond (actor)
Drew Barrymore (actress)
Drew Carry (comedian)
Earl Campbell (Heisman Trophy winner)
Edie Falco (actress)
Edvard Munch (artist)
Elizabeth Taylor (actress)
Emily Dickinson (poet)
Emma Stone (actress)
Eric Clapton (musician)
Goldie Hawn
Halle Berry (actress)
Heath Ledger (actor)
Heather Locklear (actress)
Howard Stern (king of media)
Howie Mandel (comic)
Isaac Asimov (author)
James Garner (actor)
Janet Jackson (musician)
Jennifer Lawrence (actress)
Jessica Alba (actress)
Jim Carrey (actor)
Jim Eisenreich (baseball)
Joan Rivers (actress)
John Candy (comedian)
John Cougar Mellencamp (musician, actor)
John Cleese (actor)
John Madden (announcer)
John Mayer (musician)
John Steinbeck (author)
John Stuart Mill (philosopher)
Johnny Depp (actor)
Judy Garland (actress)
Kate Moss (supermodel)
Kim Basinger (actress)
Lani O'Grady (actress)
Leila Kenzle (actress)
Margot Kidder (actress)
Marie Osmond (entertainer)
Marlon Brando (actor)
Marty Ingels (comedian)
Marilyn Monroe (actress)
Michael Crichton (writer)
Michael English (Gospel artist)
Michael Jackson (singer)
Mickey Rourke (actor)
Miley Cyrus (musician)
Naomi Campbell (model)
Naomi Judd (singer)
Nicholas Cage (actor)
Nicole Kidman (actress)
Nikola Tesla (inventor)
Olivia Hussey (actress)
Oprah Winfrey (host)
Paula Deen (chef)
Pete Harnisch (baseball)
Ray Charles (musician)
Robert Burns (poet)
Robert McFarlane (former National Security Advisor - U.S.)
Robin Quivers (radio host)
Roseanne Barr (comedian)
Sally Field (actress)
Sam Shepard (playwright)
Scarlett Johansson (actress)
Shecky Greene (comedian)
Sheryl Crow (musician)
Sigmund Freud (psychiatrist)
Sir Isaac Newton (scientist)
Sir Laurence Olivier (actor)
Sissy Spacek (actress)
Susan Powter (tv host)
Tom Snyder (host)
Tony Dow (actor director)
Vinny Guadagnino (actor)
W.B. Yeats (poet)
Willard Scott (weatherman)
Winona Ryder (actress)
Whoopi Goldberg (actress, host)

Friday, June 26, 2015

Don't Overload-

    Many of us who suffer with OCD tend to incessantly seek out self-help sources, hoping for that one thing that will provide instant relief. We can become obsessive with searching the Internet, purchasing every OCD book there is, even going from therapist to therapist.
    Be mindful that freedom from OCD is a process. Reading advice online or from a book once is not a fix. We need to do the exercises or heed the same advice many times to overcome a hurdle. Therapy takes time. One visit to an OCD specialist is not going to cure us or make us feel significantly better. It takes many sessions and all of our efforts.
    This might not be what we want to hear, but the good news is, that if we work hard and stay the course, we do achieve freedom from OCD because we learn how to cope with it and lessen its effect on our lives.
    Have a good OCD-free weekend.

Monday, June 22, 2015

New Season - New Attitude-

                                                (photo by author)

It's officially summer. A good time for a new start if you slacked off in fighting back the 'bully' of OCD (or any stress producing or worrisome thoughts.)
Roll up your sleeves, so to speak, and begin anew.
If you are weary from anxiety and failed efforts, take it slow but don't give up.
Cut back on sugar and caffeine. Exercise. Get enough sleep. Be kind to yourself.
You are NOT the OCD.
You did not cause it.
It is not uncommon.
You aren't crazy.
That said, it's important to stand up to the fears that enter your mind, no matter how obsessive, and how many. The way you would stand up against a real bully. Treat each fearful thought the same, even if some seem scarier than others. It's just the 'bully' in your brain trying to trap you. Give these thoughts an "Oh yeah??? Go ahead! See if I care?" response. Talk back to the bully. For instance:
"What's that? Something will happen if I don't wear the blue shirt today? Good. I look forward to the excitement!" 
"My house will burn down if I don't check one more time if I left the iron on? Oh well, I can use a new house anyway."
"Hah! So what if there's thousands of germs on the train. I'll become an immune power house." 
"Yep. I'll make a fool out of myself when I give that talk tonight. I can't wait to have a good laugh."
You get the idea...
So, no matter if you are 10 or 90 years old, today is a new start.
Don't be fearful.
You are stronger than the OCD bully or any thoughts that bring on anxiety and/or panic.
Lets stick our tongue out at them, and have a good start to the summer.

Friday, June 19, 2015

Weekend Reminder-

It's a condition that 1 in every 50 people have.
Your character has nothing to do with it.
It doesn't mean you are a weak or inferior person.
Famous influential people had/have OCD, such as Leonardo DiCaprio, Billy Bob Thornton, Alec Baldwin, Cameron Diaz, Ludwig van Beethoven, and many others.  
Knowing these facts won't take the OCD away, but can give us hope and courage to have a good productive day, despite the symptoms.

Wednesday, June 17, 2015

Work at it Every Day-

OCD self-help books are not meant to be read and then put back on the book shelf to collect dust  Place the one you're reading by your bed or on the kitchen counter, so you can read a snippet each day to keep you motivated and strong to rise above OCD symptoms and have a pleasant day.

Friday, June 12, 2015

Put the Bully Down!

Put the bully down already! 
How long would we put up with a real flesh and blood bully harassing us each day?
If you are a parent how long would you allow a bully to torment your child?
So, why do we allow the bully of OCD to keep on badgering us day in and day out? Why are we afraid of this particular bully of the mind?
Remember, talking back to a bully and daring him or her to do the threat surprises and disarms the bully.
Typical Bully Scenario:
Bully:   "I want your lunch money now or I'll punch you in the face."
Victim: "Oh yeah? Go ahead. Make my day!"
OCD Scenario.
Bully:    "If you don't go back and check the stove, your house will explode."
Victim:  "Oh yeah? Good. I'll make some headline news today."
Talk back aggressively and sarcastically to any fearful thought that the 'OCD bully' throws your way, and have an enjoyable fear-free weekend.

Monday, June 8, 2015

Still Procrastinating?

   If you've been following this blog, and/or reading snippets on how to overcome OCD and have still not taken steps to move forward toward feeling better, then it's time to to do so.
     Procrastinating is only stretching out suffering for a longer period of time than is necessary.
     Sometimes, as odd as it seems, we get accustomed to the state of mind we are in, even if it's unpleasant. The reasoning can vary...anything from knowing what we are dealing with (as opposed to any new discomfort) to being fearful of facing the task at hand required to break free from the grip of OCD.
     This week, why not seriously consider taking steps toward confronting the bully of OCD? Give it a try. Here are some suggestions:
Look for a qualified therapist who specializes in OCD in your area.
Look for online OCD support groups.
Go to web sites of OCD therapists such as:
Join the International OCD Foundation and/or check out their web site at:
Get my self-help book, Confronting the Bully of OCD, for additional resources of help and a technique toward being free of OCD.
    It isn't easy to begin a challenging journey, but it's worth it. One day at a time.

Saturday, June 6, 2015

Sara Bareillis Says...

"If you take your fear and mash it into something that's actually useful, then it doesn't feel like it wins." 
-Sara Bareillis

Friday, June 5, 2015

Leaving the Comfort Zone

"I took a step and with new strength I'd never felt before,
I kissed my comfort zone goodbye,
and closed and locked the door."
 -Author unknown-
It is up to us to keep up the good fight. There will be good days and bad days. Easy days and tough days with victories and defeats in each one of those days. The tricky thing is that in those fear-filled miserable times, we often tend to want to stay in what we deem as our 'comfort zone,' rather than venture out into the unknown or do what we anticipate as dangerous, or that will cause us anxiety and more fear. When in fact, doing so will liberate us from our distorted prisons. The OCD bully can really confuse us with that one. But now we know better, don't we? 
With some knowledge and encouragement, we can learn to be more comfortable with risk and therefore freer from the confines of obsessive fear that can enter into each of our lives.
Taken from the book: Confronting the Bully of OCD by Linda Maran.

Wednesday, June 3, 2015

Try Again...

No matter how strong the OCD bully has a grip on you, you can break free. Believe it
and keep trying. Confront the fears. Dare to not do the rituals and/or checking.

Monday, June 1, 2015

Just Take the Chance-

 Do you ever get those OCD thoughts that tell you not to do a certain thing or else something 'bad' will happen to you or someone you care about?  Or maybe the OCD 'bully' tells you that you better 'do' some ritual or check something one more time...or else!!!
   The key is that we just have to take the chance and do what the OCD bully is telling us will surely bring gloom and doom, and/or not do any ritual or repeated checking DESPITE the threats inside our heads that there will be dire consequences.
   Stick your tongue out at the 'OCD' bully and IGNORE the threats. Go for it. TAKE the chance. Each time we do, it makes us stronger for the next challenge.