Monday, March 30, 2015

Strength for the Week-

If you've come this far in reading and still have not taken any steps toward confronting the OCD bully, then it's safe to assume that you are reading solely to gather more knowledge about OCD. While gathering knowledge is commendable, not putting that knowledge to use is in effect, wasting it. And this is what I find to be true of most of us with OCD. We know everything there is to know about it yet we remain stuck there. We do not take it one step further and use the knowledge to make ourselves stronger and the OCD bully weaker.
From the book: Confronting the Bully of OCD

If the OCD is attacking you - here are a few simple things to feel stronger facing the new week:
Realize that one part of your brain is able to think clearly no matter how convinced the other side is about your fears and need to do rituals or compulsions.
Be willing to say 'NO' to something the OCD is telling you to do or not to do in order to feel safe. (You'll feel anxious doing this but later you'll feel stronger and more in charge.)
Do something nice for yourself today. Buy flowers. Have a special (healthful) treat. Browse a favorite store. You are NOT a bad person because you have OCD. It's a disorder not who you are.
Know that if you forgot about the OCD even for one minute, that this means you can (and will) forget it for longer periods of time...hours, days, weeks, etc.
Smile in the face of the OCD bully, even if you feel scared, overwrought and weary. The act of a smile brings hope and can actually change our mood.

Friday, March 27, 2015

Weekend Exercise - Laugh

     The old adage : "Laughter is the best medicine" rings true in most instances, including for those of us with OCD.
     We need to lighten up about having OCD. STOP being so serious. It is not fatal. It is not going to hurt anyone or you (even though the OCD Bully might tell you this.)  It is not going to feel the way it feels right this moment forever (yep, that's a tough one to believe.)
      This weekend, why not rent some funny movies?
      Here are some movies, as suggested in my book: Confronting the Bully of OCD:
DUCK SOUP (Groucho Marx)
For more humorous movie titles check:

OR, how about just looking at some funny photos of people laughing? It's said that watching a person laugh triggers a chain reaction. Here's a few to get us started...

Last but not least, read some jokes, either online or order a joke book. If you have a Kindle, you can have it in a few minutes via
Q: What did the duck say when he bought lipstick?
A: "Put it on my bill." 
 I decided to make my password "incorrect" because if I type it in wrong, my computer will remind me, "Your password is incorrect." 
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Thursday, March 26, 2015

'Pure-O' OCD

OCD symptoms vary and one kind doesn't mean anything worse than another kind.
 Some of us have what is called 'pure-o' OCD. This means we don't have any specific behaviors such as avoidance or compulsions, we just have unpleasant thoughts.(Others have a mix of all kinds of OCD.)
     The thoughts can be very disturbing at times, ranging from thinking something bad will happen on a certain day or at a specified time, to thinking we might physically hurt someone, or lose control and freak out in the movies or a library. Perhaps the thought of running down people with our car comes to mind. And many times, the thoughts come out of the blue and frighten us big time.
     We wonder, why would I think such a thought? Do I really want to do that?
     The thing to remember is that the brain can conjure up fantastic thoughts, and just because we 'think' a horrible thought, doesn't make us horrible people. 'A thought is just a thought.'
     Cognitive Behavorial Therapy works for ALL kinds of OCD symptoms, including the 'pure-o' kind. So, if this is your type of OCD symptom, look at the thoughts as OCD bullies, and talk back to them...dare them to go through with the terrible deed. "Oh yeah? Go ahead. Make my day!"  Or exaggerate the response to the thought..."Not only will I scream in the movie theater, I'll run around naked and take 'selfies' and send them into all the newspapers."
     Cringing in fear at the frightening, sometimes unexpected, thoughts that pop up in our minds only gives them power. Just like a bully.We need to confront the bullying thoughts head on. "Oh, you again. Like I'd  ever believe anything You'd have to say!"
                                            "Give me your best shot!"

Tuesday, March 24, 2015

Affirmations Continued...

I am stronger than I feel

Anxiety means I am making progress by not avoiding

I am not weak, I am a victim of OCD

From the book: Confronting the Bully of OCD

Note: Whatever obsessions are assailing you, talk back to them as you would to a threatening bully. Then do not believe the frightening thought, avoid the fear, or give in to the compulsion. You'll feel scared and/or uneasy, but also stronger.

Monday, March 23, 2015

Words to Ponder

Note: Don't allow the OCD Bully to move into your mind and rule your life.

Saturday, March 21, 2015

Weekend Practice-

Feeling fear is a sign of progress not a sign of weakness. So, it's okay to feel fear while we are confronting the bully. What we do NOT want to do is avoid the fear in order to stay calm.
From the book: Confronting the Bully of OCD
Note: Practice with one small fear, not a big one.  Pick something avoided due to fear, (like not riding a bus, walking on cracks, or whatever it is that makes you fearful but is on the bottom of the list in order of fears.
OR try not to do a particular compulsion (if that's your issue) that is done out of fear thinking that something bad will happen unless it's completed. Maybe not counting things, leaving a picture crooked on the wall, not checking the stove or plugs, not washing hands so often...there are so many, it doesn't matter what it is. Just try not doing it for an hour, then maybe a couple hours. Don't listen to the OCD bully's threats.

Thursday, March 19, 2015

Let's Review...Affirmations-

Here are the affirmations posted so far...
   I am not the OCD
   I am more than the obsessions I am having
   Every day I am pushing the OCD bully away
   I am thinking differently now
   I am becoming more free from the OCD symptoms
   Things will get better with time and patience
From the book: Confronting The Bully of OCD
NOTE:  Keep at the affirmations for the remaining of the week. The more we affirm our small victories over OCD, the less power it will have over us, and the stronger we will feel.

Wednesday, March 18, 2015

Watch the OCD Bully Back Off

    What do you suppose we could say or do to a bully who is harassing us to make him or her stop?
If we become more fearful or get defensive, that would only egg on the bully all the more! If we run away  or try an avoidance tactic, that would  only make the bully chase us with further determination. BUT, if we agree with the bully sarcastically and mockingly, and blow up the harassment to the point of it being ridiculous, then the bully will have no recourse except to stop. He or she has nowhere to go from there; nothing to come back at us with!
From the book: Confronting the Bully of OCD
Note:  Use these anti-bully tactics for the OCD - dare the thoughts or compulsions: "Oh yeah???" Talk back to them: "Go, ahead, try it!" Get Ridiculous: "Great! I like the color of a black eye."

Tuesday, March 17, 2015

More Affirmations for the Week-

I am thinking differently now.

I am becoming more free from the OCD symptoms.

Things will get better with time and patience.

From the book: Confronting the Bully of OCD

Monday, March 16, 2015

We Are More Than OCD

Having a good sense of who we are helps us get up more quickly when knocked down by the OCD bully.
How do you describe yourself as a person? Spiritual? Artistic? A Bookworm? Creative? A Homebody? Wild? 
What do you enjoy? 
Take a moment and jot down answers to some of these questions. Doing this helps us get a better picture of ourselves, enabling us to see the interests and gifts we have and the things we like to do.
From the book: Confronting the Bully of OCD
Note: This allows us to see that we are indeed more than the OCD

Friday, March 13, 2015

Some Helpful Affirmations for the Weekend-

I am not the OCD

I am more than the obsessions I am having

Every day I am pushing the OCD bully away.

From the book: Confronting the Bully of OCD

Note: Affirmations help us keep things in perspective.
Say them to yourself when you feel you are losing yourself to fearful thoughts and/or compulsions.

Thursday, March 12, 2015

Separate & Conquer

"It's a good idea to take inventory of our particular OCD symptoms and fears. This helps organize the OCD into specific fears rather than one big horrible bombardment of thoughts, ideas and/or compulsions. It enables us to separate and conquer."
From the Book: Confronting the Bully of OCD

Wednesday, March 11, 2015

Eating Well Helps

"Eating well is another asset during our preparation to tackle the OCD bully."
From the book: Confronting the Bully of OCD
Cut back on sugar and caffeine. These can make us anxious and affect our mood. 
Eat fresh fruit and raw nuts in place of sugary snacks.
Drink several glasses of water each day.  
Have flavored seltzer in place of sugary or artificially sweetened soda.

Tuesday, March 10, 2015


"The key is to remember is that you can and you will feel better than you do now, no matter how  tired and beaten you feel from your experience with OCD."
From the book: Confronting the Bully of OCD

Monday, March 9, 2015

Our Allies-

"There are three allies that will serve us very well in confronting the bully of OCD and these are: Therapist, Family and Friends."
From the Book: Confronting The Bully of OCD

Sunday, March 8, 2015

Helpful Words-

 "It is better to feel fear doing something we want to do and enjoy,
rather than feel fear hiding away from the world."
From the book: Confronting the Bully of OCD-

Saturday, March 7, 2015


"It doesn't matter if the OCD bully has been harassing you for years, months, or weeks, what matters is that you are sick and tired of being so miserable and controlled that you are now willing to take the challenge of facing down the OCD bully."
From: Confronting the Bully of OCD
Note: Willingness to fight back this disorder is an important step toward healing.

Friday, March 6, 2015

Helpful Words

"Do not internalize (fearful and intrusive) thoughts, but see them as coming from the OCD Bully."
          From the book: Confronting the Bully of OCD

Tuesday, March 3, 2015

Helpful Words

"The question we need to ask ourselves, no matter what kind of obsession (fear) we are suffering from is: 'what is the smallest thing about this obsession I can begin to tackle?'"
   -Linda Maran - Confronting The Bully of OCD