Thursday, December 31, 2015

No Resolutions...

     Forget the pressure of resolutions regarding OCD. It can just become another obsession. Instead, begin fighting back the 'OCD bully' in your brain, with little steps each day. Start with the less fearful obsessions and work your way up to the big ones. Gradually but consistent...that's the key to being free of OCD!
   Wishing everyone a happy and healthy new year!

Friday, November 20, 2015

Weekend, Holidays and Such...

         While all the hustle and bustle of the upcoming holidays tend to make many people excited and happy, it can also make some anxious and tense. The reasons vary greatly from person to person, but we do know that tension and anxiety can trigger OCD symptoms.
       So, begin now, over the weekend, to take measures to address whatever it is about the upcoming holidays that might bring on negative emotions. And then see if there is a way to remedy that.
        Sometimes we have to do things differently than we've been doing in the past for holidays. Maybe not see the same people (if they cause us tension) or go to the same places. For some, a loss of a person close to us can make us dread the festivities without them. Or a divorce or break-up in a relationship. Some counseling can be a big help in coping during this time of year. We might have to spend the holidays alone if family is far away or we have none.
    Others choose to help others during the holidays by volunteering in soup kitchens or at a local church with fairs and decorating - or behind-the-scenes as needed.
     Doing things quietly on our own to gain moments of holiday joy can be very therapeutic. Preparing a Thanksgiving meal for one with all the trimmings is perfectly fine. We are giving thanks and enjoying what we are able to partake of. No reason to miss out on the special fare of the season due to being solo. After the meal some choose to go out for dessert to a cafe or a coffee house. Lots of folks sit alone at such places for a special seasonal treat.

       Going to see the store windows all decorated. Strolling through the festive department stores and/or
Sipping a warm latte by the fireplace or under a soft blanket and listening to special songs of the season. Spending time in church absorbing the quiet and pondering the spiritual aspect of the celebrations.
Watching a favorite holiday movie with popcorn and eggnog. And it's fun to decorate even just for yourself and enjoy the atmosphere.

Walking through the lit-up neighborhood or park at night enjoying the Christmas lights.
     These are things that can enrich our moods and our souls. Loneliness, a big issue during this time of year, need not rob anyone of all their joy.
       As we begin the weekend, let us be mindful of what we can do to keep calm, bring in some joy, and not feed the OCD symptoms with stress and anxiety.  And if the symptoms are already overactive right now, talk back to each symptom as if they are all bullies full of lies, trying to make you afraid and miserable.
        And don't forget...we can be joy-givers and helpers to others who are having a hard time during holiday season. It's a good feeling for the giver and receiver. Invite a lonely person over for coffee. 
Smile at someone who looks sad. Call a friend who you know is going through a difficult time.

        Hopefully reading this will bring some enthusiasm into the upcoming holidays, whether alone, going through a personal struggle, or due to OCD. Enjoy the weekend and have a Happy Thanksgiving! .

Thursday, November 19, 2015

Is it a Real Fear or Not?

     Aconfusing aspect of OCD is the veracity of the fear. The question being: "but isn't this is a very real danger that I fear? It's not an OCD issue."
     Top OCD specialists tell us that at least ninety percent of our fears are based on very real issues. It's not the particular issue that points to OCD but it's our reaction to the particular issue. There is always a risk that not washing our hands can allow for some germs. This is a fact. We wash our hands when we can get to it and forget about it. The OCD bully tells us that once is not enough, that it may be too late because the germs have already settled in. Wash again and again and again. That is entering OCD territory.
    When fear becomes a constant source of anxiety and the main focus of our thoughts, no matter how legitimate it is, we can recognize the OCD bully at work.
                             -In part taken from the book: Confronting The Bully of OCD

Monday, November 16, 2015

Now is the time...

"Now is a good time to take inventory of the things you have begun doing to help yourself fight back the Bully of OCD and what things you still need to do." 
     From the book: Confronting The Bully of OCD
Note: If you haven't had the stamina or time to begin some kind of 'fight back' approach, now is a good a time as any. Begin the week by making a commitment to seeking help to diminish OCD symptoms. Look over the posts on this blog for tips and encouragement.

Tuesday, November 10, 2015

Soothe Yourself Reminder-

It's still early in the week and sometimes if OCD symptoms are persistent, we are tired and weary as if we put in a whole week already.
Remember to soothe yourself, despite OCD activity in your brain.(It's just a bully so treat it like one.)
Find time to soak in a warm bath, or

Relax with a favorite soothing song, or
Take a walk in a pleasant environment...along the sea shore, a lake, the local park...
Make time to pray and/or meditate.
Do some exercise, mild or vigorous. Whatever works for you.
Have lunch or dinner with a friend to break up the monotony and socialize a bit.
But remember to eat well. No sugar or caffeine. No processed foods.

DON'T LET OCD wear you down to the point of ignoring care for yourself.  A little pampering goes a long way to renew your spirit and enthusiasm to live fully, despite having OCD.
Tell the OCD bully that you come first and no fearful thoughts or compulsions will stand in your way.

Thursday, November 5, 2015

Confronting the Bully of OCD Book on Sale-

If you'd like a slightly damaged copy of Confronting The Bully of OCD, By Linda Maran,
please contact me and it's yours for $3.00 plus postage of around the same price.
Also look on eBay for the book at half price plus postage. Originally $14.99. Great if you cannot find a specialized therapist. Technique by a leading OCD NYC specialist.
                       (Photo by author)

Wednesday, November 4, 2015

Keep Getting Up...

If you keep getting back up after setbacks, you'll tire out the 'OCD bully."

Monday, October 5, 2015

Reviews on OCD Book-

Editorial Reviews 

Book: Confronting the Bully of OCD  by Linda Maran

I have read the book carefully and it is a masterpiece! -- Joseph DeRose, MD

Maran has faced her demons and taken steps to reclaim her life. She's hoping to help others face their fears. -- Gary Buiso,Bay News-A Courier Life Publication,Brooklyn, NY

Offers the best combination of the personal and professional story of OCD. Readers will know exactly what's ahead of them. -- Steven J. Brodsky, Psy.D., Licensed Clinical Psychologist

This clearly written book is a practical guide for all people suffering from OCD. -- Dr. Philip Mango, Ph.D.

The Greatest Weapon...

Monday, September 28, 2015

It's Reset Time-

New week. If the OCD thoughts, anxiety, and/or compulsions are in full gear, it's time to reset the brain.  Give it a jolt by welcoming the symptoms with sarcasm and an "I double dare you" attitude. Remember, this disorder can be likened to a bully of the mind. Treat it that way.
Talk back to it, resist the fear to not do something or go somewhere because of some 'thought' that creeps in to scare you, or threaten...such as, 'If you don't do that, then this will happen,' or 'if you do that, something bad will happen.'
WHO CARES, is the best answer to feed to the bully of OCD to disarm the cycle that is so often part of the suffering.

Have a good Monday and week with less or no OCD bullying..

Monday, September 21, 2015

New Week New Challenges...

Each week can present different challenges, depending on mood and circumstances. If last week was easier and this one seems more difficult right at the start, don't despair. Being anxious will only worsen or trigger OCD symptoms and more anxiety. We can take measures to stay on an even keel and get back to feeling a sense of calm and minimal fear.
1- Eat well. Weekends often lead us to eating what we normally do not eat during the week. Be it wine, beer, sweets, extra caffeine, etc. So it's a good idea to DRINK LOTS OF WATER now and get back on track.
2- Find a Goal - Having a goal - a project - something we want to accomplish - (no matter how small) gives us an incentive to get past challenges. To step beyond symptoms and fears.
3- Tune in to the positive things. The new seasonal items, smells, scenery. 
Those things we good book...talking with a close friend. Putting out a few of our favorite things...a colorful pillow or small painting. Whatever little activity causes happiness and a good feeling.
And remember to keep talking back to the OCD bully of your mind. It has no power to ruin your week if you stand up to it...hands on hips...and say to all those threats..."OH YEAH??? Ask me if I care!!"

It doesn't matter if you don't 'FEEL' the strength you are dishing out to the OCD 'bully' - just act 'as if' you do. Eventually, the OCD mechanism in the brain will be tricked by it.

Thursday, September 17, 2015

Change of Season Can Trigger Symptoms-

     No one knows exactly why the changes of season can cause anxiety and/or OCD symptoms to worsen, but for many of us, that's the case. The reasons don't matter as much as how to deal with it.

    It seems the best way to cope is to make it a point to enjoy the positive side of each season. Now we are entering AUTUMN. Yes, our days will shorten and darkness will fall sooner, but that is also an opportunity to cozy up with our reading and a nice cup of tea, or settle down for a good movie. Even get to bed earlier to greet a new day sooner.
     Remember to take note of the beautiful changes in the colors of the leaves, and the abundance of apples and squashes in the supermarkets and at farm stands.
                                            (Photo by author)
     Take a ride along some country roads to enjoy the autumn foliage, or take a walk in your local park.
     Enjoy some apple cider, a low -sugar pumpkin spice latte, pr low sugar apple pie.(Sugar is a no-no for anxiety, so be mindful of that.)
     Cook up some baked apples and enjoy the scent of apples and cinnamon in your home or apartment.
     See what autumn festivities are available in your area and attend one...or several.
     Treat yourself to an autumn decoration - some are quite inexpensive and can brighten a spot in your living area.
                                  (Photo by author)    
     The air becomes cooler now but not cold enough to keep us indoors. Get out and ride a bike, take a stroll, or drive the car with the windows open and enjoy the autumn breezes.
      The anxiety and/or OCD symptoms might still be there, but we can push them to the background while we make every effort to enjoy the new season. And during those enjoyable moments the bothersome symptoms might actually disappear!

Wednesday, September 9, 2015

Get Some Help...

If you cannot find a therapist or afford one, there are numerous helpful books on OCD.
Confronting The Bully of OCD, is one of them. Written by a sufferer of OCD using the techniques taught to her by an OCD specialist.

Saturday, August 29, 2015

Stay on Course

We have to keep up the fight against the bully of OCD.  It's easy to slack off. Sometimes we get used to feeling the same amount of fear, and mistakenly think that facing the OCD head-on will bring a new greater fear we can't handle.
Fear is fear. The anxiety might increase when we set new goals to tackle another fear/obsession/compulsion, but it lessens if we are persistent in not backing away from the fear.

Friday, August 21, 2015

...There's a way out of the cage where you live...

"Maybe there’s a way out of the cage where you live
Maybe one of these days you can let the light in
Show me how big your brave is." -Sara Bareilles

Confronting the OCD is the only way to lessen the symptoms. Muster up your 'brave' and face it head-on. For more info check out the book: Confronting The Bully of OCD available at

Saturday, August 8, 2015

Some Humor...

Whatever kind of OCD symptoms we have, sometimes we have to try and laugh at them...

Thursday, August 6, 2015

Get Past the OCD Bully-

Stay firm in not letting the OCD bully block your happy moments and goals for the day.
Talk back to the OCD frightening thoughts.
Dare your fears to try the threats.
Treat all OCD thoughts, fears, and temptation for compulsions, as a big bad bully trying to scare you.

Tuesday, August 4, 2015


 Confronting the Bully of OCD is the perfect book if therapy is not affordable or attainable.
Written by the client of  Dr. Steven Brodsky, a well known OCD specialist in NYC, and using the techniques taught to the author by him. The author has OCD and therefore knows firsthand the struggles entailed.
Dr. Brodsky features the book on his own website.
The book had been reduced in price and available through

Saturday, July 25, 2015

One Step at a Time...

              "What saves a man is to take a step. Then another step."
                                              - Antoine De Saint-Exupery

Friday, July 24, 2015


 "Refuse to act on an obsession, and it will die of inaction."
- Recovery Inc.

Wednesday, July 15, 2015

Getting Out...

                                               "The best way out is always through."
                                                         - Robert Frost